in love with a bargirl... big question here

[LillyAnna]

Can't be arsed reading the replies but your initial questions say it all, i'm better than a BM and she loves me and i'm young and i'm not seeing a prostitute honestly yawn. Freebies are just another ploy for alonger term snatch and if it doesn't happen so what she has a few more small dicks poking her anyway. Don't kid yourself your pathetic low self esteem got you a pro don't give it the starry eyed she loves me shit.

 

[rawr]

Good job, so far. Keep us posted. This is shaping up to be a pretty good story. Almost as good as "Zack and Miri Make a Porno." (Kevin Smith's new movie.) 55555........ :

P.S. One more thing. When you say you are willing to support her, you may not understand that in LOS, where there is no Social Security, or pensions for most people, supporting a girl translates to helping support her family, in some cases partly, but in other cases completely, unless she comes from a well-to-do family, as I am sure is not the case here. That would mean her possibly sending most or all of her regular-job paycheck to her family. You should be OK with that, if that's how she sees her obligations to her family.

 

[l0aded]

by the way, i definitely think that thai girls will find merits in a good man that she initially is not as physically attracted to so i do agree to a point with Nels and a few others when they say the bg's will say they like older men because "good heart" and "take care" and whatnot. i do believe that bg/tg do really like that aboutguys older then them

but i think it is just human nature to be physically attracted to someone your own age when you are younger

i have known Ao's frinds for almost 5 years and there must be 50 instances where her friends have asked me who a younger BM is and take a fancy to them

there has only been 1 time in all that time where i have seen one of her friends initially attracted right away to an older guy and inquire about him. that was Pablo, and come on, thats Pablo, who wouldn't be 5555

 

[estimator01]

Western romance novels, tv and movies all pretend that love is enough - and the two of you can be poor but happy together as long as you are in love. (The Divorce rate and the reasons for it say otherwise)

Most Thai girls have seen what poverty really means, especially in Thailand and they steer ( or get steered by relatives) away from even commencing a relationship with someone who is not financially viable.

"love and money is at such a basic level" LOL, you got that right. I know a TG here in farangland who was insulted to be "hit on" - since the guy wasn't rich - in her mind, that could only mean that HE thought SHE was stupid -because only a stupid woman would ever fcuk a guy with less money than her husband! h:

 

[kingsley]

:rofl: :rofl: :rofl:

Fark...anyone know how to get coffee out of a laptop keyboard :info: (just spat a mouthful)...

 

[shealynn r]

If you think posting that is going to impress anybody I think you're badly mistaken. If that is one nights' work for you it confirms what a cnut you are for only giving the girl 3000baht for 13 days of her time.

 

[Dorinta]

Sorry, i'm not sure if its an insult or a advice, but i dont understand, i speak french

And i will tell you what happened next another time, but i'm still with her right now

 

[Jesse Lame]

What was advised way back ??



Predictable to the letter.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Totally common for girls not to pressure for money (especially if your living here).. Most guys are grown up enough to realize its thier job, what they do for a living and to leave them some without having to be asked. A mature guy wouldnt have some kind of mental problem holding him back from doing the right thing.

As William Burroughs said "Beware of wh0res that dont want money, what they mean is they want more money, much more"..

Doesnt mean she doesnt like you, doesnt mean that you cant have fun.. Go slow, enjoy it, dont commit to anything, and take care of her financial needs and see where it goes.

 

[Rosanna]

thats really cool - and i agree there is no friend like a good axe, if guitars were my only friends then i still wouldn't be short of many friends

guild does make a lovely instrument, i've got a taylor nylon strung myself, although i do plan to get another steel strung somewhere along the line as i do miss that sound.

 

[Clinton]

Haven't we heard these tales before , a guy who considers himself good looking and doesn't give the girl any money ??
He talks about impressing her friends, am sure they will be impressed when she can't pay her share of the rent.

 

[honeybflyy21282]

Calling members who don't give the answers you want to hear "idiots" isn't going to endear you to anybody on the forum OMG:info:

 

[wlinda56]

Who is Celine Dion? Didn't he play goal for the Canadiens few years back?

 

[rc wwe heel fan]

Pretty much because you have shown a very severe lack of understanding, both of her needs and situation.. Combined with a fairly juvenile level of maturity and jealousy.



Partly.. Not exactly that it requires in a daily payment for sex arrangement, but an understanding of her financial needs and how those financial needs and desires will effect her thinking of security and love..

Partly also because of the testing, and the expectations that a party girl will suddenly drop it all to become a housewife with no income to prove something to you.. All while your able to make $1000 a night, you cant drop her 1000 baht..

 

[liquidsilicon]

omg is obviously not ready
for a steady relationship.
you demand a lot from the girl but in turn provide nothing.
3000 baht???? come on man

 

[leapfrog44]

I actually have sympathy with both the BG and OMG... both are human and both have expectations... it's the expectations bit that causes heartache... but they ill both learn from this. The BG will learn that the younger the handsum man the more the stress... and OMG will learn... the prettier the girl... the more the stress... :rules: same same

 

[minus 10]

Surprise, surprise! The plot thickens! omg! mg:

 

[Musicisthebest]

My fiancee took 2000B off me every night for 10 nights when I first met her Not that she asked me but I felt as I'd asked her to stay it was the right thing to do. She was worth it!!!

Happy to say I was never asked for money ever again.

 

[Pompal 09.]

OMG you have done well on the board, weathering the criticism,:^^:
Bar girls are like beer, delicious when first opened. (hey ..I like that!)

I recommend you spend time just reading threads, do not reply.
I read them for nearly 12 months before signing on, but still look like an idiot when posting a lot of the time. :redface:

:star::star::star:

 

[Pompal 09.]

This is very true I think so many guys think that they are somehow saving these girls by taking them from the bar. In reality though I think that alot of girls find security and stability form working in the bars. Its sort of a family for them and by taking them away from the bar they are giving up a part of their identity in a way. Also by putting all these demands on her I ithink you are just setting her up to fail. I would just let everything play out and enjoy the experience. Anyway hope it all works out for you.